Dating and you com
The goal is that you're working toward a relationship, which is the next big stage of commitment.However, your partner might have a few people on the back burner just in case things don't work out, and so may you.
Just last month, I met a cute guy and we went out and had so much fun together. Now it’s been a month and we’ve gone out four times.So you hang in there with anxiety and hope while another month goes by.Finally he tells you that he doesn’t see a marriage potential here.While there’s no magic bullet to prevent heartbreak, there is a good chance that if the relationship ended sooner you would not have fallen so hard.In the future, from the first date, let the guy know what you want and need: exclusivity. Even if you’ve missed your opportunity to set your boundaries on the first date, do it now.Dating exclusively is the step being in a relationship.
You're still undergoing the screening the process, but congratulations!
Perhaps, in the end you didn’t either, so no harm, right? If you had dated exclusively, both of you would have come to this place sooner and not wasted precious time.
Worse, if in fact you did fall for him, then you’re left heartbroken and empty.
You've beaten out everyone else who was in the running.
You're no longer hooking up with other people, and you're essentially only emotionally invested in one another.
Insisting that a man date you exclusively while he’s dating you sends him the signal that you are special, that you deserve love and care and respect. In my many years of matchmaking I’ve found that the one thing that’s gotten even the most confirmed bachelors off the fence and into marriage are women with inner self-confidence – no matter how quiet or soft they are – that insist on being treated the way they would treat their partner – with exclusive attention. Ziva Kramer, MA has been an international matchmaker, dating coach and spiritual advisor for professional singles for many years.